‘Remembering Phyllis’

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‘Remembering Phyllis’
(21 Dec 2020)

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Dear Kathy:

I found this obituary a couple months ago.

Dunno if you knew, or not.  You have made no mention during all these intervening years.

– Sharon

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Dear Reader:

Please!

Don’t let this be too late for you.

Please read the following Obituary and comments.  My remarks afterwards will explain it.

 – Sharon

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(https://www.legacy.com/obituaries/azcentral/obituary.aspx?n=phyllis-ann-dudycz&pid=158891458&fhid=2640)

E8BD0F0C-273E-4295-9ACA-214A67C2A413Phyllis Ann Dudycz 59 of Phoenix, AZ, passed away on Friday July 27, 2012 from Lymphoma at John C. Lincoln North Mountain Hospital.

She was born November 30, 1952 in Perth Amboy, New Jersey to Felix and Florence Dudycz and moved to Phoenix with her family when she was 2 years old.

She was a graduate of Desert View Elementary, Sunnyslope High School and Glendale Community College.

She was a long time employee of 39 years at the Arizona Game and Fish Department.

She enjoyed her friendships at work and The Single Non Smoker’s Club.

She enjoyed traveling, having parties and going to craft sales. She helped cook and serve meals at The Sunnyslope St. Vincent de Paul Dining Room and gathered and purchased toiletries, underwear and water for the homeless.

She was predeceased by her parents and stepfather, Bud Boyd.  She is survived by her companion Jack, Uncle Bud, cousins Ilona, Anita, Tom, Tracy, Stevie and stepbrothers Chris, Steve and Charles.

Visitation is Sunday, August 5, 2012, 5 – 8 pm with Rosary at 7 pm at Hansen Chapel, 8314 N. 7th St., Phoenix. Funeral Mass is at 10 am, Monday, August 6, 2012 at Most Holy Trinity Catholic Church, 8620 N. 7th St., Phoenix.  Interment will follow at St. Francis Cemetery, 2033 N. 48th St., Phoenix.

Please visit http://www.hansenmortuary.com to submit online condolences.

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Published in The Arizona Republic on Aug. 2, 2012.

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August 9, 2012

Hi Phyllis, From January 1974 when I first met you until watching you receive your 35 Year Pin on October 11, 2008, you were not just a friend, but an invaluable asset to the Arizona Game and Fish Department and the Radio Room. If I could not find the person I needed on the DVS Side, I’d call you and you always helped me. From Performing your regular job to making the Mail Runs and running vehicles between the Dept. and DPS, you always came through in a pinch. Over the years, from our trips to Department Schools, on Lake Pleasant with WM Gene Sturla (way back when), to my first trip to Las Vegas with you in 1975, to all the Tupperware and Candle Parties, a beautiful Christmas Eve Dinner in 2009 at the AZ. Biltmore with you and Jack, to finally a ride on the “Light Rail” all the way to the end and back, you will always be in my heart and my memories.

You’re at Peace Now,

Janie Brown

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August 7, 2012

Sometimes I struggle with the fact that such a kind, sweet, honorable person like Phyllis is taken away from us much too early. I have come to realize that only God sees the big picture and someday when our time comes we will have a better understanding. Phyllis, you are an angel now and you still continue to do the wonderful compassionate work of our Lord, only now he is standing right by your side. We all miss you very, very much. But I have no doubt that we will meet again…..peace be with you.

Connie Weise

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August 5, 2012

Phyllis, you will truly be missed but never forgotten. Our condolences to the family for your loss. We send our deepest sympathy during this heartbreaking time.

Jim and Joni Bidle

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August 3, 2012

Phyllis, I’m so sorry of your passing, and want to say thank you for being such a nice, sweet person. For many years I called you to reserve a vehicle for my boss and you always took care of him so well. I could call you at anytime, and you made sure he had a decent vehicle reserved. It was so nice talking to you, I wish it was more often. Since I was not stationed at the AGFD HQ, I wasn’t able to see you unless I came up to HQ for business or other GAF activities. I’m going to miss our phone calls. There needs to be more kind hearted sweet people like you in the world – you will be truly missed! God bless you Phyllis. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Rest in Peace. Your phone friend,

Mary Mary Eggers

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August 3, 2012

{REVISED} MY CONDOLENCES TO JACK AND FAMILY FOR THEIR LOSS.

DANIEL COREA

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August 3, 2012

MY CONDOLENCES TO JACK AND FAMILY FOR THEIR LOST.

DANIEL COREA

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August 2, 2012

You have been missed here at work for quite some time, but knowing that you will not be coming back leaves an emptiness that cannot be filled. Your passing should remind us all to stop and enjoy all the little, truly important moments in life that seem to pass us by. We will all miss your enthusiasm, your never forgetting to celebrate a birthday and holiday, even your fondness for hiding rubber snakes, mice and other critters in our desk drawers! And I suppose you now know who is responsible for some of those April Fool’s Day jokes too :0) I truly hope you are at peace now and full of happiness. May God bless you…

Tracy

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August 2, 2012

I’ve known Phyllis for 22 years since I started with the Arizona Game and Fish department. 99 percent of the time we always had a very good working relationship. The 1 percent of the time that we did have a difference only made us closer. As you can see by some of the comments here, Phyllis was a special and caring person who was liked by all that knew her. I’m saddened by her passing and will miss her.

Steve Levings

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August 2, 2012

Phyllis, your time on this earth has come and gone–so, so too soon. But over the years you have touched the lives of many people, for the better. Rest in peace with our Heavenly Father you loyal and trustworthy servant.

Bob Weaver

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August 2, 2012

I will miss my birthday party planner so much!! God Bless you Phyllis and rest now my friend!

Cindy Arnold

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August 2, 2012

So sorry to hear of her passing. Will remember her visit to Missouri and our time when we came out there. I love you and willmiss you.

Earlene St. Clair
August 2, 2012

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August 3, 2012

It was with sadness that we write our final message to Phyllis in this guest book. Phyllis was always there and always helpful when cheerful help was needed. From the time I met her while working in Phoenix to all the other assignments when I was at the headquarters and had business at her office, I could always count on Phyllis as a kind soul. There is a special place for her and we pray that God protect her and love her forever. Peace to you Phyllis.  Don & Betty Turner

Don & Betty Turner

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August 2, 2012

Phyllis, I am so sorry to hear of your passing, may you rest in peace, and those closest to you find solace in the fact that you lived a peaceful & honorable life. Where those of us who knew you, even tangentially, were routinely treated to your smile, decency & willingness to solve whatever needed solution.
I wish these words were not needed for another 30 years, but alas it was not to be.
I thank you for making mine and numerous others at game & fish; “procurement journey” somewhat incrementally understandable and more important; pleasant :}
If there is a heaven, I know you’ve got a “to the head of the line pass” use it! John Gunn

john gunn

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August 2, 2012

Phyllis and I started with AGFD at nearly the same time. She was an exceptional person and one of the best people I worked with during my career at AGFD. She was a can do person that could always be counted on to help you. I always enjoyed visiting with her when I was at the main office. I am very sorry to hear of her death. I am sure she has a special place in paradise as she was truly a model person for all of us. God speed Phyllis on your journey and thank you for sharing your life with us.

Tom Britt

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Dear Reader:

Thoughts – in this season of family, loved ones, remembrances, expectations.

This is a life lesson – please don’t lose contact with the people you love in life.
 
If someone out there contacts you, someone from your long ago past, then welcome them, assure them that they are not intruding into your privacy, pease consider re-uniting.  At least for one more time.
 
Tomorrow, and what it could contain, is not guaranteed to any one of us.
 
It’s too late for me, don’t let it be too late for you.
 
I’m so sad for Phyllis.
 
Age 59.  So young.  So many more years of life that was denied to Phyllis, as was similarly denied to her father who died in his 40s.  Perhaps Cancer (he was a chain-smoker).  Perhaps why Phyllis participated in her non-smokers club.  Perhaps the affects of second-hand smoke from her father’s chain-smoking led to her early demise.
 
Phyllis’ family and my family were close during the 1960s and the 1970s – a ‘second home’ in many ways.  Our parents worked together at Sperry.  Phyllis’ mother ‘Flossie’ was my sister Kathy’s Catholic Godmother.  I remember watching our parents playing card games at their kitchen table during the evenings – particularly ‘Old Maid’ and ‘Crazy 8s’.
 
I remember our families going to the movies together – especially ‘Mad Mad World’ and ‘Dr. Zhivago’ – at the Kachina Theatre.
 
Phyllis and Kathy and I were neighbours during the Summer of 1963.  Kathy and I with our father lived around the corner at the 7th Street Apartments.  Kathy and I frequently stayed with Mrs. Goslen during that Summer’s mornings.  During that Summer’s afternoons, we three children spent our many days together – playing Barbie, playing board games, swimming in their backyard Doughboy pool, swimming at our apartment pool.  I remember a few years later when Phyllis was seriously injured in her bicycle accident, I remember seeing her in bandages.
 
I remember our families spending many holidays and special events together – Christmas at their home and our home, birthday parties.  I had a cherished picture of Phyllis and her mother at one of Kathy’s birthday parties.  I had it with me to scan at the university library scanner.  I did not scan the picture that day, expecting to scan it the next time; it is lost forever, stolen in the burglary.
 
I still remember when Phyllis’ father died.  He was so young.  His was the first time when I went to a funeral.
 
Our family moved away – first to Greece, then to Sierra Vista.  I do recall one visit during the 1970s after my father and I returned from Greece; this visit was after Phyllis’ mom ‘Flossie’ re-married.
 
My father remained living at Cochise County til he died (1989); I don’t know how much my father remained in contact with ‘Flossie’ and Phyllis.
 
Kathy lived here for several years, then moved to San Diego.  I know that I regularly asked Kathy whether or not she remained friends with Phyllis and her Godmother ‘Flossie’, but she refused to answer.
 
I moved to Utah for five years, returned to Arizona (Tucson) for a few years, returned to Phoenix in 1993 to continue working for the State of Arizona (AHCCCS and ADOA) til 2008.  I was not sure about my status with either Phyllis or her mom, especially as Sharon. 
 
I thought to contact Phyllis through the State employee intranet e-mail system, but I didn’t do that because I didn’t want to intrude upon her work privacy; I also worried that I might violate employee privacy regulations.  I had a job interview at Game and Fish about 15 years ago.  I thought to say ‘Hello’ after the interview, but decided otherwise because I didn’t want to be an unexpected intrusion at her work; I left a written note with the interviewers instead.  I guess that Phyllis chose to not re-connect with me; maybe family gossip spread to her that Nickie was now Sharon, maybe she wanted nothing to do with me.  I can’t bear to think that Phyllis might have spread gossip about me with her State of Arizona agency co-workers that could have filtered to my own agency management.
 
I cruised our old neighbourhood during all these past 25 years when I returned to The Valley – maybe once or twice each year.  I drove by Phyllis’ home, uncertain whether to stop and say ‘Hello’, afraid that I would be intrusive.  I recall seeing their family nameplate proudly displayed at their home throughout all the years – it had been there since as far back as I remember as a child.  On one drive-by, I noticed that her family name plate was gone.  I did not know what to make of its absence, I certainly did not consider the possibility that Phyllis was dead (though that drive-by must have been after her death).  I realised, though, that my opportunities could be gone forever.
 
I occasionally tried searching for Phyllis on social media, but couldn’t find her.  I thought nothing negative of it, not everyone is in social media.
 
I shared these memories about Phyllis with my Bestie one day as we rode the city bus past the old neighbourhood, not knowing what I would learn.
 
I tried an Internet search.  That’s how I found her obituary.  I’m crying for Phyllis who passed too young, and for our decades lost.
 
I first shared this privately with Kathy.  Dunno if she knew and kept Phyllis’ death from me.  Or if she didn’t know.  What family knew?  Who didn’t know?  Gail?  Carole?  Bev?  Bev – you and Kathy are best buds.  What has she said?  If Kathy could so easily ignore Phyllis and her family, then what makes you feel so special?  When will she dump you?
 
– Sharon
 
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Additional Resources:
 
Arizona Game and Fish Comprehensive Wildlife Conservation Strategy (2005).
 
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